Domestic Violence and PA

UKAP considers it very important to mention the very close connection between (physical) domestic abuse and PA (psychological domestic abuse), a well as the role of false allegations of both…

The analysis is simple.  We begin by asking some questions and, helpfully, providing the answers…

1   Is it true that alienating mothers make false allegations of sexual or physical violence against absent fathers?   Yes.

2   Is it true that alienating fathers make false allegations of mental instability or sexual promiscuity against Targeted mothers?  Yes.

3   Is it true that resident mothers make true allegations of sexual/physical violence against absent fathers?   Yes.

4   Is it true that resident fathers make true allegations of mental instability or sexual promiscuity against Targeted mothers?  Yes.

All the judge has to do is to sort the wheat from the chaff.

In cases 3 and 4 there is no PA.  This is because PA requires that the rejection of the absent parent by the child is unwarranted.  Parents that do this stuff should not see their children, or should have contact supervised.  Also, these kinds of scenario are usually dealt with as public law cases (because the courts and social workers regard them as ‘serious’ abuse, as opposed to PA cases which involve ‘mere’ emotional/psychological harm).   The absent or abusive parents are, rightly, kept at arms’ length.

In cases 1 and 2 the (usually) absent parent must be granted contact as soon as possible, and the AP punished, not merely admonished.  Robust Orders must be made, and enforced.  Quickly.

But how is a judge to tell the difference between case 1 and case 3?

Well, there are some tell-tale signs, aren’t there.

The most obvious question to ask is this:

“When did the alleged abuse START?”

If the alleged abuse starts only after the couple separates, alarm bells should ring.  This should raise a prima facie (‘on the face of it’) assumption of false allegations.   It seems unlikely that a mild-mannered, gentle, reasonable, kind man should, post-separation, turn, all-of-a-sudden, into a monster…

Next:  Experts like Dr Craig Childress and Dr Amy Baker make it clear that

Children do not typically reject a parent, even a relatively bad one, unless they have been manipulated to do so.

Indeed, one of the problems for social workers in public law cases is that the child often wants to continue contact with a violent/abusive parent (just like alienated kids cling to their abusers, the APs).  Kids want heir parents, even abusive ones!  And TPs are NOT abusive, and yet we are routinely denied contact in the face of false allegations…’just to be on the safe side’.

Good old Judge Judy has the measure of this.  She was a family court judge for many years…








1 thought on “Domestic Violence and PA

  1. There is always blame in Divorce even though the courts are trying to say their is Not. I also truly believe the Mothers and fathers situation are two totally seperate entities. Until courts recognise this nothing is ever going to change. There should be a choice to have a named person to do the hand over of the children.


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